From Hostility To Harmony

Non-Violent Resistance E-Course and Mentoring For Parents/Carers

I've walked in your shoes!

I was a foster carer and then in 2011 adopted my son when he was three and who came with just about every single challenge ever recorded!! (or that’s how it felt!) The level of defiance, manipulation and tantrums were so extreme that I felt bullied, inadequate, sad, rejected and overwhelmed.

As he got older his manipulative behaviour became more sophisticated and he started to become violent towards me and our home. We had received a lot of assistance with behaviour management and DDP but it was following Non-Violent Resistance that really turned things around. I became so convinced in the method that I trained in it professionally.

My lived experience of child to parent violence, attachment disorder and blocked care, provides me with a unique empathy and understanding for other parents and carers.  Parents seem to warm me (I think/hope!) and readily identify with my teaching.

What is Non-Violent Resistance Training for Parents (NVR)? 

NVR is an empowering and non-physical method for parents and carers to manage and connect with children to reduce and eradicate violence and abuse. It also works with controlling and manipulative children. 

The aim of NVR is to re-stablish parental presence in the childs’ mind, rebuild and develop a co-operative, more harmonious relationship and for the balance of power to be addressed.

The need to control to avoid being controlled dissipates in both the child and parent.

My Unique Programme "From Hostility-To-Harmony_Changing A Child's Challenging Behaviour" a blend of NVR combined with NLP, Solution Focused Therapy and Stress Management, will teach you to:

• De-escalate conflict during emotionally charged incidents
• Prioritise problematic behaviour 
• Break the ‘seal of silence’, overcome your isolation and develop support networks within your family and community
• Raise your presence through several kinds of considered and organised protest and ensuring there are regular relationship building activities
• Repair the parent-child relationship through reconciliation gestures, repair and relationship based play
• Desist in engaging with the behaviour to disrupt the learnt and patterned negative behaviour of the child
• Ensure extreme self-care, practice self -regulation and meet their own needs
• Develop reflective forms of communication and non-verbal communication
• Apply the NVR approach to discipline and natural consequences 
• Apply NVR principles in a trauma informed manner

I honestly can’t say thank you enough. I feel this has been life changing for my son and I. I feel like I have the tools and skills and knowledge to handle what life throws at us. I know I won't always get it right, but I also know I have the power to get us back on track again when this happens. I have gone from feeling unsafe and unsure most of the time, to in control and feeling safe all the time - in just 3 months with Gill's course and weekly inputs. I absolutely love NVR and plan on making it my default of how I parent in our life together. What a pleasure it is to talk to someone who really understands!

I provide;

• A 12 unit e-course Hostility-To-Harmony
• or 1 to 1 coaching to families accompanied by the Hostility-To-Harmony e-course
• Group work over Zoom with up to 9 other participants
• Sign up for a free trial of the Hostility-To-Harmony e-course

Provision can be funded by the Adoption Support Fund for adopters and special guardians. Ask your adoption support  social worker to apply for this on your behalf.

If you are self funding you can go through the e-course on its own, but most effective is to also work with Gill and receive mentoring.