Non Violent Resistance Packages

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Non-Violent Resistance Programmes (3 options)

1. NVR e-course comprising twelve 40-50 minutes videos: £195 per family
2. A block of 16 x one hour one to one sessions via zoom plus the NVR e-course: £1760(can be funded by the ASF)
3. Group work programme (can be funded by the ASF) comprising:

• Seven, two-hour sessions in a group of up to eight families over Zoom
• Four individual family hourly mentoring sessions over Zoom which both parents are required to join
• 12 unit e-course which second parent not attending the group work, is required to follow
• All necessary administration of the above, support emails to participants, reports for the ASF 

What is Non-Violent Resistance (NVR)? 

NVR is an empowering and non-physical method for parents and carers to manage and connect with children to reduce and eradicate violence and abuse. It also works with controlling and manipulative children. 

The aim of NVR is to re-stablish parental presence in the child's mind, develop a co-operative, more harmonious relationship and for the balance of power to be addressed.

The need to control to avoid being controlled dissipates in both the child and parent.

Our Unique Programme -NVR combined with NLP, Solution Focused Therapy and Resilience, aims to teach parents to:

Our NVR therapy is designed to increase the resilience of parents and carers struggling with the challenges of parenting a child with trauma, to create harmony at home, whilst developing new tools to help the child to change their challenging behaviour including:

• Reactive, angry outbursts
• Demanding
• Controlling
• Manipulative
• Aggression or violence
• Threatening
• Defiance and opposition
• Sense of entitlement
• Extreme sibling rivalry
• Lying and stealing

It is these behaviours than can lead to a family disruption whether that be parents divorcing or a child going (back) into care.

Non-Violent resistance is an evidence- based approach that can reduce and even eradicate such behaviours whilst improving the stability within the home, how the parent feels and their parental presence. Provision helps families to:

• De-escalate conflict during emotionally charged incidents
• Prioritise problematic behaviour 
• Break the ‘seal of silence’, overcoming isolation and developing support networks within family/community
• Raising presence and being a stabilising influence
• Repairing the parent-child relationship through reconciliation gestures, repair and relationship based play
• Desisting in engaging with the behaviour to disrupt the learnt and patterned negative behaviour of the child
• Ensure extreme self-care, practice self -regulation and meet own needs
• Develop rapport and reflective forms of communication including non-verbal
• Discipline and natural consequences 
• Apply NVR principles in a trauma informed manner
• Managing the teenage years
• Making technology safer
• Supportive parenting to help a child reach their potential

It is not possible to put all the principles in place in one go, it may take several months and it requires a high level of commitment from the caregiver to stick with the programme. For some the principles will be challenging.The results and rewards however can be immense and effect lasting change for the child, their behaviour and the family dynamic.

"16 weeks ago, our household was a battleground. Emotions were mostly negative, and we found ourselves in a downward spiral of disaster heading towards a family break up. Now, with the tools we have learnt along the way, we are in a much better place. We are now able to handle most situations that may arise, by applying the principles of NVR through a well constructed and delivered package". Adoptive Father

Evidence

High efficacy and very low drop-out rates make this a very efficient and cost-saving approach for CAMHS clinicians and professionals in Social Services or the independent sector. Working with NVR can help prevent family or placement breakdown. View a case study here.

Our NVR Trainer/Mentor Gill Tree

Having been a foster carer for two years Gill became a single adopter in 2011 to a highly traumatised boy with a complex attachment disorder. The family received a lot of assistance and therapy including DDP, but it was Non-Violent Resistance that turned things around. Gill was so convinced by the therapy that she trained in it professionally. Her lived experience of child to parent violence, attachment disorder and blocked care, provides her with a unique empathy and understanding for other parents and carers. 

Professional background

Gill has a background in community development, twenty years teaching stress management to industry to clients such as BT, HMRC, World Wildlife Fund, and nine years owning GM Tree Training Ltd. She is a qualified teacher of adults and an accomplished trainer and conference presenter.

Gill Tree was the keynote speaker at Adopt South West’s fourth annual adopters conference and delivered an inspirational and engaging presentation titled ‘from hostility to harmony – changing a child’s challenging behaviour’. 

Gill weaved her own experience as an adoptive parent and her professional expertise to explain child to parent violence and offer up positive non-shaming strategies under the umbrella model of NVR. One parent said “it was an excellent conference, well organised with good refreshments but importantly an excellent presenter who was very engaging and honest”.

As a result of the conference there has been a significant increase in families approaching Adopt SouthWest for support to help with challenging behaviour and child to parent violence with a particular demand for Gill as their preferred provider.

Abraham O'Brien Service Manager Adopt SouthWest November 2022

See Gill's CV

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